Divorce is not generally an easy process for anyone involved, but it could take a particularly hard toll on your kids. While it is important to take care of yourself during this time and resolve conflict with your spouse, it is equally crucial to make sure your kids are okay.
However, you might not know quite how to help them through this process. Here are a few tips for helping your kids navigate your divorce:
Talk to them openly
Communication with your kids is essential during a divorce. It will help to have an open conversation with them about what is going on. Let them ask questions and try to explain to them what is happening.
It is also crucial you make it clear that the divorce is not their fault. Children can often blame themselves for a parent’s separation so it is essential you reassure them that you both still love them and they are not to blame for what happened.
Keep conflict to a minimum
Though you and your spouse are not in the best place right now, it is important that you avoid arguing and fighting in front of your kids. A tense, heated environment is not healthy for your kids. Try your best to prevent arguments when you are around your kids.
Children can often even pick up on fighting behind closed doors, so try to avoid tense confrontation with your spouse altogether.
Try to maintain normalcy
Keeping a similar routine and schedule will help your kids adjust to the changes that are coming. Maintaining as normal of an environment as possible will make your family’s transition into divorced life easier and give your kids a sense of security and comfort.
The most important part of creating a safe and healthy place for your kids is supporting them in all ways you can during this time. Remind your kids that you are there for them to talk about whatever they are feeling and show them that you will still support them after the divorce.
Divorce is a big change and can cause significant turmoil in your children’s lives. There is no easy way to go through a divorce, but there are many ways you and your spouse can make the process smoother and minimize any damage that could happen.