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Starting a conversation with aging parents about medical POAs

On Behalf of | Feb 5, 2025 | Estate Planning |

Planning for the future can be difficult, sometimes especially when it comes to making healthcare decisions for aging parents. Many families avoid discussing medical power of attorney (MPOA) options until a crisis forces the issue. Unfortunately, waiting too long can lead to confusion, stress and family disputes right when critical decisions need to be made.

In Texas, a medical power of attorney allows a designated individual to make healthcare decisions on behalf of a loved one if they become incapacitated. Without this legal document, families may face challenges getting necessary approval for medical treatments or long-term care. Having this conversation early on can help to ensure that a parent’s wishes are respected and that the right person is entrusted with making important medical choices on their behalf.

Breaking the ice

Starting a discussion about medical power of attorney requires sensitivity and patience. Many aging parents may resist the idea, fearing a loss of independence. Choosing the right time and setting is key. For example, bringing up the topic during a calm, private moment rather than during a medical emergency can lead to a more open and productive conversation.

Framing the discussion around the parent’s wishes rather than legal formalities can help ease concerns. Asking open-ended questions such as, “Who would you trust to make medical decisions if you couldn’t?” or “What kind of care would you want in a serious health situation?” can make the conversation feel less intimidating. Sharing personal experiences or stories of others who have faced challenges without an MPOA can also highlight the importance of planning ahead.

In Texas, the person chosen as the medical decision-maker should be someone who understands the parent’s healthcare preferences and is willing to advocate on their behalf. It’s also important to discuss different scenarios, including long-term care, life-sustaining treatments and the role of medical professionals in carrying out these wishes.

Taking the time to discuss and establish a medical power of attorney can prevent future uncertainty and stress. Families who proactively address this issue can honor their loved one’s healthcare preferences, even in difficult circumstances. Seeking legal guidance when drafting and executing this document can provide clarity and peace of mind, better ensuring that all decisions align with Texas law.